I Do Too Much

I love how people like to say "Oh, you do TOO much" when perhaps they do too little. If doing too much means that I care greatly for my hair, then I will proudly shout from the rooftops, "I'm a natural and I do too much." I will sit down in a 12-step program in a discreet location, pull my natural hair products out, log onto YouTube and confess how I LOVE caring for my natural hair. Doing my hair is not a chore; it's a priviledge. You see, when you've had the displeasure of losing tufts of hair and having people ridicule you for bald spots, then you'd probably do too much to grow back hair that was lost too.

Don't you love when the people who are insecure for whatever reason declare that what you're doing is TOO much? Typically, the "Do Too Much" people are VERY easy to spot. You can hear them before you see them and when you see them, you'd rather forget them. Don't get me wrong. No one that I know of actually enjoys spending long lengths of time detangling. BUT, there is nothing wrong with a lovely home spa session giving your natural hair the TLC it needs.

Crown me the Queen of Do TOO Much!

So, in honor of all the "do too much" natural haters... I'd like to share some advice on how to keep them at bay while you continue doing what you do.

1. How about we agree to disagree? I would say that the Do Too Much people would love to push on others how actually taking time to select quality products and detangle your hair is TOO much. Well, I agree to disagree. I agree that if we disagree then we don't have to agree on ANYTHING. Did you get what I mean? In other words, you do you and I'll do me. We don't have to use the same techniques or products. I'll keep on growing my hair where there was none and thank the Lord, I don't have to follow anyone's rules, but my own.

2. I really don't do all of what you think I do (allegedly). If I wrote down all that I did in a wash session or even from day to day, it may seem like too much. But, I don't wear makeup, so I figure my hair stuff makes up for it. Maybe I think it's too much to wear foundation, so we can meet the middle. I'll keep on pampering my hair and you can keep your make up. Agreed?

3. My "expensive" products in reality are less than the cheap drugstore stuff. OK, so I probably will step on toes, but hey, I do too much, so let me proceed on. Let's do some math here. If your product costs less than mine BUT you use A LOT of product, whereas I don't use as much, then ummm... I would calculate that you are actually spending more than me. I use a dollop of my natural products, because my hair loves them and I don't have to heap on stuff that just sits on top of my head. Perhaps you love your drugstore stash. Well, I love my organic stuff. Isn't it wonderful that natural hair companies come in Gucci, Prada, and Nada prices? You can find products for every budget and product preference.

4. It only affects me, so why does it bother you? If what I do is for MY scalp and hair, then why do you even care that much? You could cut all your hair off, paint a tattoo on your bald head, then find a golden wig to wear. Do I care? Not a bit, honeydew. You can go all squirrel monkey dashing through the store looking for your hair and I'll take care of what I have. Am I knocking the weave hussle? Well, as long as you're not knocking me taking care of what grows out of my scalp.

OK, now that we've established that I do TOO much then I figure it's done and I can go ahead and go do my pre poo, henna, shampoo, deep condition, steam session. I mean, time is wasting and I got stuff to do!!!!